May 12, 2008

The Dog Has Died

Younger Son's Golden Retriever, GB, died Saturday.

I had to give YS the news yesterday, Mother's Day, when he got home from a weekend retreat sponsored by his school, Seattle University.

Older Son was home as well, but none of us felt like going out for dinner, so we postponed that until Wednesday.

We decided to have GB cremated, and we will take his ashes and scatter them at the beach next time we go. GB loved the beach more than any place else on earth.

The photo at the top is Younger Son, incognito, walking both dogs on Christmas Day. The lower photo is me at the beach with the dogs, two summers ago.

@ Jeanne Sather 2008.


May 09, 2008

But WHY Do Dogs Eat Rocks?

All week, people have been telling me stories about the things their dogs have eaten, including a writer from the AARP who interviewed me this morning about cancer drug prices.

She said her Golden had swallowed a tennis ball (whole) and had to have surgery.

A copy of the April issue of BARk magazine was lying on the coffee table as I was calling the vet on Monday. One of the teases on the cover was for a story about dogs eating things they shouldn't: "When Dogs EAT Glue, Diapers, Coins & Toys: E.R. Tales."

So after we took GB to the vet, I sat down to read the story, hoping to get an answer to the why question: Why should a dog who has a happy home and is fed twice a day, rain or shine, feel the need to swallow large stones?

The story was written by Nick Trout, who is on the surgical specialist team at Angell Animal Medical Center-Boston, which is run by the Massachusetts Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals. If anyone should have an answer, he should.

Here is Dr. Trout's conclusion: My favorite theory, and one I believe I can safely share with the majority of Laborador owners, is that "It was there, so I ate it."

Argh.

Whe GB comes home, he won't be going out into the back yard (the source of the very expensive rocks) without a muzzle.

See also:

Rocky Monday ...

Now It's Rocky Friday ...


@ Jeanne Sather 2008.

Mother's Day: Minority and Mixed-Race Donors--Step Right Up!

I've asked Older Son, who is Japanese, to sign up for the National Marrow Donor Program as a Mother's Day gift for me.

I know from my own writing and from people I've known that it can be extra difficult for a person who is mixed race or a minority to find a good match for a transplant.

So I e-mailed Susan Hamre at the National Marrow Donor Program (NMDP) again, to get the latest info on this issue. Here's what she said:

Regarding the need for mixed race and minority people to register, the NMDP has made great strides, and the likelihood of finding a match has increased dramatically for patients from all racial and ethnic groups.

Nevertheless, because these traits are inherited, a patient's most successful match is with someone of the same heritage. The groups of individuals underrepresented on the Registry are American Indian or Alaska Native, Asian, Black or African American, Hispanic or Latino, and Native Hawaiian or other Pacific Islander, and there is still a great need for donors of diverse ethnicities and backgrounds.

@ Jeanne Sather 2008.

May 07, 2008

More on Mother's Day

I e-mailed a couple of questions to Susan Hamre of the National Marrow Donor Program (NMDP). Here is her reply:

In answer to your questions, there is always a cost to join the registry. This cost is for tissue typing, which is how a patient is matched to a life-saving donor. (The closer the match between the patient's tissue type and the donor's, the better for the patient.)

It costs $52 to test the tissue type of every new registry member. Knowing that the cost can be a barrier, we work with sponsors, search for grants, and ask for contributions from people year-round. This allows anyone to join the registry during the Thanks Mom campaign (May 5-19) without paying the cost for tissue typing (or until we reach our goal of 46,000 new registry members during the campaign).

One reason I'm so excited to be a part of the Thanks Mom campaign is because individuals who normally aren't able to donate because of cost can do so now. This campaign is all about helping others by becoming a donor and also by allowing more individuals the opportunity to more easily give the gift of becoming a donor.

Again, we are grateful for the financial donations of generous sponsors who allow the NMDP to make this kind of giving possible for so many more people.

I e-mailed her yet again to ask for more info about the need for minorities and people of mixed race to sign up for the registry--because I know that minority and mixed-race patients often have a very hard time finding a match.

I'll post her reply when it arrives.

Read my earlier post: What I Want for Mother's Day


May 05, 2008

Rocky Monday ...


So I got home from my date last night with Car Guy (more on that later), and was getting ready for bed.

Younger Son's dog, GB, usually sleeps in my room. Connie sleeps there too, or not, depending on how well he is behaving ... In any case, as I was getting settled into bed, GB threw up, on the carpet I had professionally cleaned not two weeks ago, and there, among the usual ick was a rock.

A huge rock.

Two inches in size, in fact.

GB has done this before. Golden retrievers have a thing for eating weird stuff, including rocks. I put him in the back room, which has a tile floor, with Connie, and went to bed. But this morning the dear doggy was still gagging and couldn't eat his breakfast.

It had that train wreck feeling--inevitable. I called a friend (no car, remember? It's still with Car Guy) to take us to the vet, and the vet got us in for an emergency appointment. Took an X-ray, and there was an even bigger rock in the dog's gut. No way he is going to be able to get that one up, and no way it will pass through, because of its size.

The dog is scheduled for surgery this afternoon, and will probably stay two nights. I had to call Younger Son to tell him. I know he was upset, although he said he was fine.

Heck, I'm upset. Really stressed. And I'm leaving for an appt. in about two minutes with my dermatologist--my melanoma checkup.

Argh. Rocky Monday--could someone write me some lyrics?

What's this photo about? When I was at Third Place Books this weekend, I bought several magazines, including "Bark." I haven't read it yet, but it was sitting right there on the coffee table as I was calling the vet, with this teaser on the cover: When Dogs EAT Glue, Diapers, Coins & Toys: E.R. Tales


@ Jeanne Sather 2008.

May 04, 2008

What I Want for Mother's Day

May 11 is Mother's Day (I had to check my calendar for that one), and this is what I want:

No flowers (I have plenty in the yard). No chocolates (I'm trying to lose 20 pounds).

I want Older Son to register for the National Marrow Donor Program as a gift to me.

Not that I will ever have a stem cell or bone marrow transplant (transplants aren't generally used to treat breast cancer), but I know how badly we need to expand the pool of potential donors, especially minority and mixed race donors. And Older Son happens to be Asian (Japanese).

Younger Son, who is white, is off the hook this year, because he is only 17, so too young to register, I believe. I think the only time children are donors is for family members, typically siblings.

I didn't think of this all on my own. Last week I received an e-mail from Susan Hamre of the National Marrow Donor Program (NMDP).

Susan wanted to tell me about an effort called "Thanks, Mom."

She wrote, ... our hope is to bring 46,000 people to the national registry in just the two weeks surrounding Mother's Day. For thousands of patients living with diseases like leukemia, finding a match on the Registry is their only chance of long-term survival.

I have a couple of questions for Susan, which I am going to e-mail her:

1. Is it true that people who register for the NMDP have to pay a fee?

2. How much is the fee?

3. Do you think more people would register if there was no cost to potential donors?

Of course, if Older Son agrees to register, I'll pay the fees for him.

To learn more: www.marrow.org

See also:

More on Mother's Day

Mother's Day: Minority and Mixed-Race Donors--Step Right Up!


The photo is of Older Son at age 6. He is now a very handsome 23-year-old business student at the University of Washington, set to graduate this June.

@ Jeanne Sather 2008.

April 17, 2008

Younger Son's Letter to Seattle Prep

Younger Son went to high school at Seattle Prep, a private, Jesuit high school here in Seattle.

We aren't Catholic, and part of Younger Son's experience at the school was his role as the "token Agnostic." He also spoke FOR abortion during a debate at the school his freshman year and was heckled and jeered at by the students in the audience, while the teachers in the room did nothing.

That was a shock, to both of us. But overall, he enjoyed his three years at Prep, and we think he received a good education. He decided to leave a year early and start college at Seattle U, also a Jesuit school. The two schools have a program called Matteo Ricci College (MRC), which allows seniors at Seattle Prep to start college a year early, but to participate in sports and other extra-curricular activities (like prom) at Prep during this year.

Several dozen kids from Prep choose this option every year. Now, the school wants to limit involvement by these MRC students in student activities at Prep.

Younger Son suspects that the reason for the change is to make the program less attractive to Prep students, to keep them at Prep, and paying tuition, for another year.

Anyway, here's the letter he sent to the powers that be:


Hello-- This will be a quick letter giving the reasons why the current proposed changes to MRC are foolish and would only hurt the program and Seattle Prep. Let me first say that if students wish to use MRC as a replacement for senior year and continue on at another university as a Freshman they will be allowed to do this. Seattle Prep cannot decide what MRC students will do after their year at Seattle U. I believe Dean Fisher has already sent a message about this.

Secondly, the decision to let student athletes continue with their sports while denying this availability to the rest of the co-curricular activities at Prep is blatantly discriminatory. While you say that MRC students should become involved at Seattle U, there is no Mock Trial team at SU. There is no Kairos at SU. Prep's drama department would take another blow if MRC students are no longer allowed to participate. As well, the drama program at SU is designed for acting majors, on a very different level than the hobby level of Prep drama and it does not provide an acceptable substitute.

Furthermore, it was said that MRC students are taking spots away from Prep students by participating in these activities. This is also hard to believe. Most MRC students will only return for an activity that they either became very skilled at while at Prep, or are only available to seniors. In the case of skilled students, they cannot be replaced by lower level students and by being denied the ability to participate are actually hurting the program itself. In the case of senior-exclusive activities, MRC students should be allowed to participate. Denying them this not only hurts Prep because it is limiting the number of students who are available, but also generates animosity for MRC students.

If Seattle Prep is to implement these changes they will be denying to many of their students an unheard of opportunity. Matteo Ricci is the best high-school program in the state with no equal anywhere else. The courses taught at MRC are mind-opening and are far superior to other courses that are offered. To implement these changes is to reduce the number of students who will consider taking these courses. This is a gross violation of the choice that these students should be allowed to make. Choosing to do MRC is difficult enough for most students, but to then make it so that the students have effectively left Prep is to close down the program because very few students would make that choice. If Prep continues with this strong-arm tactic to make students do what Prep wills, rather than what the student wills, they will have denied a right to their students.

Lastly, let me tell you something that only a student would know, since administrators do not get involved in the lives of their students. I have yet to hear an MRC student say that they disliked any of their classes. At the most we complain about the amount of reading or however many pages long our essay is supposed to be. I genuinely love going to class. I have never heard a senior year student say that about their classes. In fact all I ever hear from them is usually how much they dislike or hate their classes.

These changes would reduce the number of students who attend MRC, and so is going against what is put forward as the intent of these changes. It would be for the best if most all of these changes are not implemented, since students will still continue on to MRC regardless. All they would do would be to exacerbate the relations between the two schools. This benefits no one, neither the MRC students who are cut off from the classmates, nor the programs at Prep who would lose some of their most gifted students. I would request that the board not implement the changes put forth, and avoid a split between the two schools.

Sincerely,

Robin Sather '08/SU '11

I'm his mother, of course, but I think that is an amazing letter for a 17-year-old to write.

April 01, 2008

Mother Love


This, of course, is what the trip was all about: Spending time with Younger Son.

Jacqueline took this shot of the two of us in the New York subway.

@ Jeanne Sather 2008.

March 31, 2008

A New York 'Slice': Jeanne

Not my most flattering photo, but you can tell I'm enjoying the pizza! This was the best pizza I think I have ever eaten--but I may have to order a pizza from Pagliacci (our favorite Seattle pizza) tonight to compare.

A taste test.

But they'll never deliver just one slice, and I'm not sure I want a whole pizza when I'm home alone. The dogs are NOT allowed pizza, although GB, Younger Son's dog, would eat it. Not sure about Connie, he's not such a chow-hound as GB.

@ Jeanne Sather 2008.

A New York 'Slice': John

What to say about John? He was a great host. He's fun to talk to, and fun to hang out with, and he laughs (gently) at the way Jacqueline and I talk nonstop when we are together.

Love the guy.

@ Jeanne Sather 2008.

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