The Assertive Cancer Patient

Booby Prizes

From now on, all runners up in our contest An All-Time Low: For Rudeness and Insensitivity will receive a Booby Prize.

Thanks to Amorette, who found these at a flea market, and actually had the nerve to buy one. They are actually "stress balls," you know, the ones you squeeze to build your grip strength and reduce stress.

Any woman within range who sees a guy squeezing one of these is not going to have HER stress reduced, of course.

All contest runners up will receive a real Booby Prize if we have an address for them, or if we know them and can just hand it over in person. Otherwise, we'll send the prize via e-mail, and they'll just get the digital image.

The winner of the All-Time Low Contest gets an even better prize.

Keep those entries coming!

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@ Jeanne Sather 2007.

An All-Time Low: For Rudeness and Insensitivity

Ladies (and gentlemen, although this is almost exclusively a woman-only blog): I think we need to add a new contest category, in addition to October's annual How LOW Will Komen GO? Contest.

(Entries for next year's "How LOW?" contest are already flowing in--unbelievable ones. I, as you know, will be in Japan, managing my blog from afar. Amorette will be with me, for a week, anyway. I hope. Big Little Bento Artist: She needs to go to the source of all bentos.)

So, back to the topic. A reader posted a comment to my blog that, as far as I am concerned, has won the prize for Rudeness and Insensitivity. Not to mention: Not a Real Human Being.

Without further ado, the comment:

Someone just said to me yesterday (when she found out that I had had breast cancer) that "everyone has breast cancer" (herself not included) and it's not a big deal anymore! I can't stop thinking about that comment...isn't that so insensitive?

That was from Sharon.

And my reply:

Sharon--that was incredibly rude. And not true.

I would say, don't even try to figure out what her problem is. And the problem is HERS, not yours, that I can say with some assurance.

Do you have to ever see this person again? Do you want to work on a snappy comeback? Just let me know if you do--the readers of this blog (and I) are great at put-them-in-their-places comebacks, so just let me know.

In addition, let me say, Sharon, that I am really sorry someone said this to you.

My only thought is, in order to get it out of your head, there are a couple of things you can do:

1) Give her an award, as we are doing here.

Next time you see her, say something like,

"Hey, remember that remark you made to me about everyone having breast cancer and breast cancer not being a big deal anymore?--Well, I've submitted your comment for an award, and you have won the First Annual Award for Rudeness and Insensitivity to Someone With Cancer. I hope you're proud."

Oh, and here is her prize:

Prize

Sara found that one, and e-mailed it to me just this morning. I'm sure that will become part of next October's anti-pink rant ...

Sara, Amorette, Lisa, Jacqueline, Teri, and other friends out there: Anything to add?

Or,

2) Leave it to us. Send me her e-mail address, and I will award her the prize directly.

I realize as I write this that I have a couple of contests going. The other one was for the rudest e-mail I have received (to date).

What can you do with people like this? I have several strategies. One is humor. Another is to push back. And my best strategy is to "keep the shields up." I'll be blogging more about that over the next couple of weeks.

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@ Jeanne Sather 2007.

How LOW Will Komen GO?: The Winners

Choosing the winners in our month-long competition to find the tackiest, most trivial, most offensive pink ribbon products endorsed by the Komen Foundation wasn't easy. As readers of this blog know only too well, during October we cancer survivors have had to run the gauntlet of tacky pink crap whenever we ventured into a retail establishment. (One easy answer: Stay home. Vote with your wallet.)

However, allowing for personal biases on the part of the judge (me), some clear winners did emerge. And they are:

Grand Prize: to the blogger Dubutaunt, for her entry: Jingle Jugs for Life

Jingle Jugs sells life-size boobs, or "racks," that bounce in time to the song "Titties and Beer." Its market? Frat boys.

From the Jingle Jugs Web site: “Our newest version of Jingle Jugs comes with a pre-recorded breast cancer message. A second re-recordable chip allows the user to record a message of his or her own choice, such as a favorite song, your favorite team's fight song, a romantic message, a political commentary . . . all to which the Jugs will dance and move in synch.”

Debutaunt’s comment, in a letter to Komen: “... Honestly, I can't see in any good conscience how you can justify accepting money from this vulgar company. They sell a product that is so putrid and heinous, but are justifying it since they donate a ‘percentage’ to breast cancer organizations -- then show proudly their giant check to Komen.”

See Breast Cancer Jingle Jugs

First Prize: to a Canadian reader named Nancy for: Pink Wedding Gowns for the Cure

This entry was an editorial feature in “Brides” magazine. ABC News had this quote:

"With this gown sale, we hope to harness the power of the wedding dress — an icon viewed around the world as a symbol of hope for the future — to impact the lives of seriously ill women in a positive way," said Millie Martini Bratten, editor in chief of “Brides.”

Watch the ABC News clip

Judge’s Choice Award: To the Mars/M&Ms Company for: Pink M&Ms

I have been boycotting M&Ms and all Mars candy products for more than a year, because I think the pink M&Ms trivialize a very serious disease.

This year, I turned the pink M&MS into a mosaic titled, “What I See in the Mirror Every Morning (And It Ain't Pretty).”

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How LOW Will Komen GO?: A Contest

Just a week left to go in our "How LOW Will Komen GO?" contest. Keep those entries coming, folks.

The winner gets a batch of Boycott October buttons, plus use of my Corvair whenever he or she is next in Seattle, maybe for the Cancer Blogger Reunion next July!

Here's my entry in the "How LOW Will Komen GO?" Contest:

A pink-ribbon English muffin.

Komen defenders, please feel free to write in and explain to me how I, a woman living with metastatic breast cancer, am supposed to get Komen's message of "awareness and support" from this almost-inedible food product?

The message I get, loud and clear, is EXPLOITATION. I feel exploited by Komen, and by companies that market stupid products with pink ribbons on them.

But let's keep this light, folks. Send me your entries--what pink product really makes your blood boil?--with a digital photo, if possible.

The winner gets my remaining supply of Boycott October buttons (I have about six left).

A New Use
I do not recomment that you eat these English muffins, even if you can get past the pink ribbon on the label. Read the ingredients on the back--this product is chockful of preservatives and mold inhibitors. They will probably last forever.

So, my suggestion is, use one of these puppies, with a pink M&M nipple, instead of an expensive ($300) breast prosthesis.

Goodbye Jabba, hello MuffinBoob!

More Great Entries

Pink Wedding Gowns

Jingle Jugs

I know these two will be hard to beat, but keep those entries coming, ladies (and gents)!

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@ Jeanne Sather 2007.