Back in late April, I had what I thought was a brilliant idea: What if all my favorite cancer bloggers and I joined forces and blogged on the same topic at the same time?
That would give our readers a half dozen different takes on the same topic, and give us some synergy (hate that word, but what can you do?) in our isolated blogging lives.
The first topic I suggested was "meltdowns," and the results were pretty fantastic. See Cancer Bloggers Join Forces.
I was sitting here today after a tough morning (an MRI to my right upper arm to see if there is a tumor growing there—no results till tomorrow … argh) and feeling the need for that same kind of mind meld with my favorite fellow bloggers. So I sent out an e-mail to half a dozen of the same bloggers, plus one more, to see if they were interested.
The topic I proposed was "health and happiness"—because in most people’s minds they are linked like peanut butter and jelly: If you have your health, you can be happy. And if you aren’t healthy, that cliché would imply, how could you possibly be happy?
They were SO interested, that one blogger actually got her post up before I’d written this one.
Jeanne’s Take on Health and Happiness
There are a number of clichés in the English language that link the words “healthy” and “happy.” We say, “As long as my children are healthy and happy …” Or, “As long as I have my health …” The underlying assumption is that you can’t be very happy if you have a serious illness.
Well, that has not been my experience. The years I have been living with cancer have certainly included some of the worse moments in my life, but they have also included some of the best. I don’t think I would have experienced life during the past few years with the same degree of intensity and joy if I had not been diagnosed with cancer. I am not alone in this. A number of cancer patients and cancer survivors have told me the same thing.
Research, published in February 2005 in The Journal of Experimental Psychology confirms our experience. The study found that healthy people are not necessarily happier than seriously ill ones. In addition, the healthy participants in the study greatly overestimated how unhappy sick individuals would be, while the sick ones overestimated how happy the healthy ones were.
This doesn’t mean that I don’t have bad days, of course I do, but I certainly have more good days than bad.
The times that I am unhappy, depressed, and prone to meltdowns, are usually the times that I feel rotten physically. But I usually feel rotten because of side effects of my TREATMENT, not because of my cancer—one of those little ironies about living with cancer.
The things that make me happy are the simple things—mostly the same things that made me happy before I got cancer, but somehow my happiness in these things is more intense now. My children. My animals. My garden. Sunshine. Rain. Writing. And the Red Corvair.
From My Blogging Friends
After you read Jennifer's post (above), then read this one:
An End-of-Life Spending Spree Has a Surprise Ending
From Jill, one of the happiest people I know:
And from Lisa, a doctor who has cancer:
From Teri (AKA Teresa), Nebraska's Cheeky Librarian:
Can you have cancer and be happy? You betcha!
While you're at Teri's blog, check out the Ninja Librarian:
Sara had me laughing and crying with this post, all about gardening and love, growing peas (with a surprise ending that she captures in a great photo), and baking brownies, fabulous brownies:
From Gudrun, in Germany:
And the German version:
@ Jeanne Sather 2007.
I am hoping and praying that you will get excellent results from your MRI...a pulled muscle, arthritis, or some other benign problem. Please post and let us know what's up - good or bad, your readers want to hear.
I am a breast cancer survivor (2 years) and stumbled upon your blog a couple months back, and now I check in daily.
I have my own MRI tomorrow and am freaking myself out thinking about it. I know all too well the fear and anxiety associated with such tests.
Kristina
Posted by: Kristina | June 13, 2007 at 04:51 PM
Kristina--sorry you're freaking out about the MRI. It never gets easier, does it?
Unfortunately, my results were not good. In fact, my doctor isn't sure what's wrong--not what you want to hear--so that means more tests ASAP plus a referral to a good bone doc, one who usually treats people with sarcoma.
I'm going to put up a longer post once I get myself pulled together. I just found out this afternoon.
Jeanne
Posted by: Jeanne | June 13, 2007 at 07:18 PM
Jeanne, You can absolutely count on me to post about my favorite canine companion. Let me know when.
Posted by: Lisa | June 14, 2007 at 05:03 PM
Lisa--that's great. It will be soon. Jill has a service dog, Pumpkin, and Liz at As the Tumor Turns (who will be posting on "health and happiness" once she gets her computer up again after moving) has THREE dogs, and I have two, one of them is a wanna-be service dog, but his manners need some work.
Jeanne
Posted by: Jeanne | June 14, 2007 at 05:27 PM
Hello. My name is Kate and in May of 2000, my mom was diagnosed with Brain Cancer. On March 23, 2004 on her 59th birthday, she passed away.
I was blessed to be a part of her care alongside my father. Our best moments were ones filled with laughter and usually those moments were funny because they were linked to the absurdity of her new life - a life with cancer.
To honor my mom, I am trying to collect stories from cancer patients, survivors, and loved ones, that are humorous and uplifting. My dream is to have the stories compiled into a book of short stories. I believe my mom would have loved reading narratives that were filled with humor and silliness. It would have been a pleasant reminder that our stories live on forever - so we, not cancer, have the last laugh.
I am emailing you to ask for your support and help. If there are any words of advice or guidance you can provide, or individuals who you think could be of some assistance, that would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much.
www.laughingatcancer.com
Posted by: Kate | August 08, 2008 at 07:29 PM
Kate--I am very sorry that you lost your mother to cancer. I don't have any suggestions re your project, except to wish you good luck with it.
Posted by: jeanne | August 11, 2008 at 09:40 AM