This Blog Is NOT for You

This blog is NOT for you if you are trying to change the way someone with cancer is dealing with their illness.

You may think you are trying to help, but the fact is, it is not your illness, and you don't get to make the decisions. Nor do you get to tell the person with cancer how they should act or feel, or what treatment they should have. Not even if you are the husband, wife, child, or parent of the cancer patient. Nope.

Do not point a friend or relative with cancer to this blog as a way of telling them to change the way they cope.

I feel very strongly about this point. If you know someone who has cancer, you may be feeling powerless. You want to help. But the best way to help is by supporting the person with cancer in whatever decisions they make about treatment or other aspects of life with cancer—not by telling them what to do.

See Jeanne's Soapbox No. 1 for more on this topic.